Why I Need Doula Friends...
Let's face it, no one really understands what it is like to be a doula unless you are a doula. Right? If you haven't lived through a marathon birth existing on caffeine, protein bars and a banana then you just don't really get it. If you couldn't imagine why someone would choose to sleep in a hospital bathtub, then you just don't get it. When you try to explain to other friends why you were up with a client for 36 hours straight without more than 5 minutes of sleep they just don't get it.
A doula gets it.
I need doula friends. I need to have someone to talk to that has been there. I need someone who knows what a birth hangover feels like. I need someone who understands how you can feel a whole range of emotions after a birth. Having a doula to help process a birth is an incredible blessing. Having a doula to call on the ride home after a birth so that they can help 'keep you awake' is crucial. Cynthya Dzialo (The Happiest Doula) is one of those friends for me. We should get together more often because there is always too much to discuss!
I hope you have a doula friend or many that really 'gets' you.